most unusual girl

This is the most unusual story
of a most unusual girl
She's the paint in my picture
of a most unusual world

She can crawl out a frame
while she's hanging on the wall
And she's calling my name
she's not so usual

She's most unusual
Shes not so usual
She's so unusual

She's mostly a ghost
the way she watches over me
She complains when I smoke
but then you do the same to me

She's controlling my brain activity
knowing when I go to sleep
She'll catch me when I'm falling hard
she's so unusual

*****
She's not so
hooked on the drugs like I thought she was
And never suckin' on the lime and hardly sippin' on the wine
And despite
of her bi-polar roller coastering
I think I can trust she'll keep me singing differently

And that's fine
'Cause she's with me now most all of the time

Trying and savin' the light
Thinking not of her own
And always kissing me goodnight
When I just need to be alone
She's so sweet
So discrete
-She's exactly what I need
Not even make believe...

she's not so usual...

She's so unusual
She's not so usual
So unusual

Oh, Not so usual
and not too practical either,

What's that, she's
not so mystical
but not too magical neither,

I said she's
not so out of control
and not so used to the full

kaisen

Sunday morning, praise the dawning
It's just a restless feeling by my side
Early dawning, Sunday morning
It's just the wasted years so close behind
Watch out, the world's behind you
There's always someone around you who will call
It's nothing at all
Lou Reed

Ahh. 40 degrees rising and the fog lifts here in lovely Bloomington. The sun is shining and the snow is melting. Yay.

I stopped by my favorite flower shop, Mike was there with the chewed-up cigar hanging out of the side of his mouth,
"Where you been, little lady? Life treating you good?"
He asks while wrapping up my tulips. I cringe at the grammar but smile at his sincerity. God, I love Hoosiers.

He explains how the tulips will grow once you get them home and with a twinkle in is eye says that spring will be here in about 8 weeks. Along with the promise of spring and flowers, he prods me about my love life.
"Well, obviously if I am buying the flowers---," I trail off.
He shakes is head and smiles as I pay the bill, he says with a wink,
"Come back more often. We like seeing ya."
I promise I will try.

I spent well over 3 hours talking to the guys down at the coffee shop, Pat M. one of my favorites, and Eric a math genius who teaches quantum-numbers-and-theories at university. Grumpy Tom is there, who swears like a sailor but has a soft spot for little girls and then there is Doctoral Tim 'music man' B. Rounding out the table of course, the romantic Dave T with a different woman clinging to his side every time I see him. It always makes for interesting, eclectic morning conversation.

I spent most of my time talking to Eric about dreams-- we share lots of problems with thinking and loss of sleep. We are both nervous types. We discuss the motivation behind exercise and the metal game required to do triathlons and play golf. We both vow to pick up golf again come spring.

Father Pat clicks his tongue, praising my dedication to the gym but asking if I made it to church this morning. "This is my soul food today," I say.
And soul food it was...just what I needed.


The warm weather picks-me-up as I am thinking about a grant for a special project I am formulating for the spring. I am collaborating with a cool old broad who pushes me. Am also getting the wanderlust again--so will need to decide whether I want to travel this summer or landscape my yard.

I think both are possible.

Anything is possible this Sunday morning.
Anything is possible....

age of aquarius

Shadow in my heart
Is tearing me apart
Or maybe it's just something
In my stars

There's a hole
In my life
There's a hole
In my life

Be a happy man
I try the best I can
Or maybe I'm just looking
For too much
"hole in my life"
Police

Pulled out this old album today. one of my favorites.
got me through tough times.

feeling grumpy as of late. think it has something to do with january.

october-january-april
are shit months for me.

soooooooobeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeehaaaaappppppppyyyyyyyyyyyy.

ptttthht!

musings

I don’t wanna waste your time
With music you don’t need
Why should I autograph the book
That you won’t even read
I’ve got a different scar for every song
And blood left still to bleed
But I don’t wanna waste your time
With music you don’t need

I don’t wanna waste good wine
If you won’t stick around
I love to laugh but I’m more than just
Your alcoholic clown
I won’t pray this prayer with you
Unless we both kneel down
I don’t wanna waste good wine
If you won’t stick around

Come on lighten up
Let me fill your cup
I’m just trying to imagine a situation
Where we might have a real conversation

But I don’t wanna waste the words
That you don’t seem to need
When it comes to wanting what’s real
There’s no such thing as greed
I hope this night puts down deep roots
I hope we plant a seed
‘Cause I don’t wanna waste your time
With music you don’t need

"don't want to waste your time"
Over The Rhine
Trumpet Child

Well, it's 2008. Happy 2008.
It's been awhile.
No new resolutions I want to share.
Not feeling like sharing much these days,
I don't play well with others,
And I have been known to run with scissors.

The town has been a little down since Evan left us. I didn't go to the gatherings but had every intention to do so. Something about January just takes the motivation right out of me.

Lately I have been feeling down about hurting other people. I feel sad that I have hurt others in a way they have to heal and grieve and mourn and start over again. I don't like that.

Been thinking about the people who have hurt me too. The pain has subsided, but you know, the scars are still there. Some irrepairable damage done too. Paralyzing in fact. And each time it happens, I become less caring, less willing, less open to possibility--more jaded and guarded.

And still, I don't like the fact that I am getting older and am by myself. There are times when having someone around would make a difference. I often feel unprotected and frightened. And no amount of self-defense -- physical or mental-- will do in those situations.
There are things I want to do but find that doing them solo is just-not-quite-the-same- I dunno.

Emotional attachment is a sticky thing. Is it worth the hassle? Is it worth the risk of knowing that person too might leave? Or to realise they are not for you and have to inflict that sort of loss on someone else?


I resign myself.

ELIZABETHTOWN "long ride home"

Long black limousine
Shiniest car I've ever seen
The back seat is nice and clean
She rides as quiet as a dream
Someone dug a hole six long feet in the ground
I said goodbye to you and I threw my roses down
Ain't nothing left at all in the end of being proud
With me riding in this car, and you flying through the clouds

I've had some time to think about you
And watch the sun set like a stone
I've had some time to think about you
On the long ride home

One day I took your tiny hand
Put your finger in the wedding band
Your daddy gave a piece of land
We laid ourselves the best of plans
Forty years go by with someone laying in your bed
Forty years of things you say you wish you'd never said
How hard would it have been to say some kinder words instead
I wonder as I stare up at the sky turning red

I've had some time to think about you
And watch the sun set like a stone
I've had some time to think about you
On the long ride home

Headlights staring at the driveway
The house is dark as it can be
I go inside and all is silent
It seems as empty as the inside of me

I've had some time to think about you
And watch the sun set like a stone
I've had some time to think about you
On the long, on the long
Oh the long, on the long
On the long ride home

Thinking of you today.

you are sui generis, my love

Ahhhh vacation sweet vacation.
It has been an interesting one. Lots of surprises--all good.
Admittedly, I have been living off gift cards and the kindness of strangers.
Saw Oliver! front row on NYE. Best new year's eve I have had in years. and years.
Also explored the inside of the West Baden Resort Hotel in southern Indiana.



Spent some time down on the River
That was nice. Wish the stay could have been longer though. Maybe next time.

Found my new place to hang out:
FARM Bloomington
Good, honest folk, great atmosphere, no letches, good energy.
***
Listed here are my top 10 albums of 2007. Should be in The Ryder next issue.

10. Suzanne Vega Beauty & Crime
In 2007 we welcome back Suzanne V. with a grown-up sound and a tasty album. I love concept albums and her themes surrounding New York/Beauty/Crime are lovely. “Frank and Ava” is especially de-lish. Other nice surprises are included on this release.

9. (Various Artists) Sound track to the motion picture I’m Not There
Not sure if it is fair to include a various artists album in the top-10 but this 2-cd soundtrack includes my favorite artists covering Bob Dylan songs. The movie may not receive high marks but the music ROCKS. To me taking great Dylan songs and listening to my favorite musicians playing them is a win-win.

8. Feist The Reminder
Putting “1,2,3,4” aside as the catchiest earworm in the history of pop music, Reminder is a solid album. Leslie’s new release rocks-- no doubt about it. If you don’t believe me, check out “Sea Lion”. Her voice is like buttah baby.

7. The Greyboy Allstars What Happened to Television
Television was the surprise of the year for me. I was fortunate enough to meet the band in the ‘FHB studio at an interview back in the spring when they played Jakes. This is a great hip-hop, funky album from top to bottom.

6. Andrew Bird Armchair Apocrypha
Lyrics, musicianship, and folk-pop complexity make this album top-10 worthy. Not to mention, seeing Bird up close and personal gives the listener an added appreciation for his musical genius.

5. Arcade Fire Neon Bible
AF rumored by an old friend of mine to be the next Rolling Stones of our generation, this album runs the gamut: passion, pressing issues of planes crashing into buildings and going where no one else goes blows me away. Not to mention, recording in their own church in Canada? Get out.

4. The New Pornographers The Challengers
If I may be so bold, Challengers is NP’s best album to date. It is power-pop classic at its finest; great melodies, lyrics and up-tempo tunes. Neko Case’s familiar voice cuts through whether it be the ballad of “Failsafe” or belting it with “Challengers” all and all the record is a fine piece of work.

3. Iron and Wine The Shepherd’s Dog
Most people have a love-em-or-hate-em reaction to Iron and Wine. I was pretty impressed with The Shepherd’s Dog. Sam really mixes it up: one track feels tribal in nature, another bluesy, and still another jazzy. I appreciate Beam’s ability to test the waters while remaining true to his roots. Good mellow stuff here.

2. Wilco Sky Blue Sky
Being a die-hard Wilco fan, SBS was a shoe-in for my top 10. Still, Tweedy’s lyrics and the band’s mature, mellow style make this a solid album and a great listen—not to mention a fantastic live show. Try “You Are My Face”. Lovely…

1. The Shins Wincing the Night Away
Wincing came out early in 2007 and yet it remains in my continuous play lineup. My MOM even liked this one! I can take this album on a road trip, to the gym, on a run, and back home and have yet to put it away. Kudos to The Shins for capturing—and keeping my attention in 2007!

Been working on Wizard of Oz with a few dedicated students. I laugh more with these kids than with most adults I know.






And my sweet Lilly--good QT with her. She got a BIG WHEEL this year.




Happy 2008.


I am looking forward to what lies ahead...sui generis

look what I can do...

OK, brace yourself.
about me: if I get an idea in my head about changing something, I will do it. And sooner rather than later. I plan, I dream, I do the research and then--I make it happen.
So yeah, the bathroom floor. What a mess...

can you say an extra layer of vinyl under the first layer? Can you say the worst mildew smell EVER??





But check out the NEW and IMPROVED floor...
now to get that toilet back in place.

Happy New Year!

tinkerbell

birthday presents are soooo nice!
thanks Big C!

"just another day"

Every Day She Takes A Morning Bath She Wets Her Hair,
Wraps A Towel Around Her
As She's Heading For The Bedroom Chair,
It's Just Another Day.
Slipping Into Stockings,
Stepping Into Shoes,
Dipping In The Pocket Of Her Raincoat.
Ah, It's Just Another Day.
At The Office Where The Papers Grow She Takes A Break,
Drinks Another Coffee
And She Finds It Hard To Stay Awake,
It's Just Another Day. Du Du Du Du Du
It's Just Another Day. Du Du Du Du Du
Lt's Just Another Day.

So Sad, So Sad,
Sometimes She Feels So Sad.
Alone In Her Apartment She'd Dwell,
Till The Man Of Her Dreams Comes To Break The Spell.
Ah, Stay, Don't Stand Around
And He Comes And He Stays
But He Leaves The Next Day,
So Sad.
Sometimes She Feels So Sad.

As She Posts Another Letter To The Sound Of Five,
People Gather 'Round Her
And She Finds It Hard To Stay Alive,
It's Just Another Day. Du Du Du Du Du
It's Just Another Day. Du Du Du Du Du
It's Just Another Day.

"Title of the Song"

A colleague pointed this out to my department today totally making fun of Boy Bands. I couldnt get the links to work but just go here:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zc1Js9P3urw

read the lyrics: totally brilliant!

Declaration of my feelings for you
Elaboration on those feelings
Description of how long these feelings have existed
Belief that no one else could feel the same as I
Reminiscence of the pleasant times we shared
And our relationship's perfection
Recounting of the steps that led to our love's dissolution
Mostly involving my unfaithfulness and lies
Penitent admission of wrongdoing
Discovery of the depth of my affection
Regret over the lateness of my epiphany

(Chorus)
Title of the song
Naïve expression of love
Reluctance to accept that you are gone
Request to turn back time
And rectify my wrongs
Repetition of the title of the song

Enumeration of my various transgressive actions
Of insufficient motivation
Realization that these actions led to your departure
And my resultant lack of sleep and appetite
Renunciation of my past insensitive behavior
Promise of my reformation
Reassurance that you still are foremost in my thoughts now
Need for instructions how to gain your trust again
Request for reconciliation
Listing of the numerous tasks that I'd perform
Of physical and emotional compensation
CHORUS
Acknowledgment that I acted foolishly
Increasingly desperate pleas for your return
Sorrow for my infidelity
Vain hope that my sins are forgivable
Appeal for one more opportunity
Drop to my knees to elicit crowd response
Prayers to my chosen deity
Modulation and I hold a high note...
CHORUS

"Title of the Song"

A colleague pointed this out to my department today totally making fun of Boy Bands. I couldnt get the links to work but just to here:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zc1Js9P3urw

read the lyrics: totally brilliant!

Declaration of my feelings for you
Elaboration on those feelings
Description of how long these feelings have existed
Belief that no one else could feel the same as I
Reminiscence of the pleasant times we shared
And our relationship's perfection
Recounting of the steps that led to our love's dissolution
Mostly involving my unfaithfulness and lies
Penitent admission of wrongdoing
Discovery of the depth of my affection
Regret over the lateness of my epiphany

(Chorus)
Title of the song
Naïve expression of love
Reluctance to accept that you are gone
Request to turn back time
And rectify my wrongs
Repetition of the title of the song

Enumeration of my various transgressive actions
Of insufficient motivation
Realization that these actions led to your departure
And my resultant lack of sleep and appetite
Renunciation of my past insensitive behavior
Promise of my reformation
Reassurance that you still are foremost in my thoughts now
Need for instructions how to gain your trust again
Request for reconciliation
Listing of the numerous tasks that I'd perform
Of physical and emotional compensation
CHORUS
Acknowledgment that I acted foolishly
Increasingly desperate pleas for your return
Sorrow for my infidelity
Vain hope that my sins are forgivable
Appeal for one more opportunity
Drop to my knees to elicit crowd response
Prayers to my chosen deity
Modulation and I hold a high note...
CHORUS

28 days peace, love and understanding

Things I understand:
morning coffee
pleasure in a tough cardio workout
eating to live
solitude
the silence between blackout and curtain call
internal rollercoasters
boiling time for pasta (al dente)
the smell of winter
the ache of loneliness
vibrations of others
hard work and payoffs
discipline

Things I don't:
social climbers and gold diggers
the world of politics on all levels
insincerity
sports
the rights of privilege
trust
lechery
new year's eve
anything in excess
***

Lately my dreams have been vivid and extreme. Lots of snakes, ticks, bee stings and pants wetting. Fortunately no tornado dreams. Still I wonder what is going on with my subconscious mind. And my conscious one as well..
I don't know where I am going with this post.

I have been thinking about an old friend lately. I wonder how he is doing in Portland. I try to picture what he looks like now. Have not seen him in years. I don't miss him. I don't love him. Just on my mind. Hope he is well.

28 days are past and I feel fine. More than fine. Wishing you good karma.
***

This song seems to be especially on my mind lately.. you go Elvis
And as I walk on
Through troubled times
My spirit gets so downhearted sometimes
So where are the strong
And who are the trusted?
And where is the harmony?
Sweet harmony.

Cause each time I feel it slippin' away, just makes me wanna cry.
What's so funny 'bout peace love & understanding?
What's so funny 'bout peace love & understanding?

So where are the strong?
And who are the trusted?
And where is the harmony?
Sweet harmony.

Cause each time I feel it slippin' away, just makes me wanna cry.
What's so funny 'bout peace love & understanding?

"magnetizing"

off of Minx by MARSMOBIL

you seem to be so lonely
you naughty girl
you never show your feelings
but who can tell?
let me see you smile again
step inside
you are the queen of every day
dont be blind
why don't you smile just one time?
stand beside me
knowing that love can heal you
how good it can be.

your magnetizing cosmic eyes
you're trying to hide
i waiting for this moment
that you arrive
why dont you smile just one time
stand beside me
knowing that love can heal you
how good it can be
***
looks good on paper but not so much in real life, eh?
Am feeling back to where I was in July before I fell off the planet and lost my balance. Glad to be back to even footing and emotional stability. I hate getting off track or distracted by stupidity or sparkly bling. So I lost a few months--'sokay I am making great gains now.

I was once told that you can learn something from everyone you meet. I guess there are acceptions. Still, my skin is--as Andrew B would say back to tough. The scars are healed and I am not going there again.

Thanksgiving was good. I didn't allow emotions to flood me with feeling. I remained calm, unmoved, detatched and safe. Still, I was able to relax, enjoy and appreciate those in my life who care about me.
This year I am most thankful for my daughter Lilly.

I am also thankful for my inspiring, fabulous, creative, complicated, beautiful, smarmy, savvy, flexible, tough, strong self.

touche!